Jump at opportunities, not conclusions!

Okay, so I just recently started university in September and although I am technically there to work, the life of a student is FAB! (minus the fact that I never have money for anything and I’m in like a millions pounds worth of debt).

Despite being more excited rather than nervous, before I moved away to university I still had niggling thoughts in the back of my mind that said things like: ‘What if my flatmates are horrible?’; ‘what if I don’t make any friends and have to live three years alone without any social interaction at all?!’; ‘what if I hate the course I am taking?’; ‘what If I miss home too much?’… what if? what if? what if?!

I kept creating all these negative thoughts in my head that I have now realised were totally irrational, and after talking to people, it seems that these are fairly common thoughts in people moving away to university. And yes, of course these situations may arise, for example, my friend really does not get on with her flat mates… but she found us instead and is now planning on moving into a house with us next year! What I’m trying to say is that yes, things may not go perfectly, but in my opinion nothing is as bad as you think it could be.

I moved into a flat with five other complete and utter strangers and I’m pleased to say that we get on like a house on fire and have become very close as a group. I, like I expect most people do, formed a first impression of each of them when I first came face to face with them and after knowing them just a short while, I realised my impressions were mostly wrong! My judements instantly labelled them and put them under some category such as: ‘popular’, ‘gamer’, ‘loner’ etc. (I promise I’m not a horrible person, this is just the conclusions my brain jumped to, I swear!! However, people are so much more than just what they appear to be the first time you meet someone and I think through my experience at uni so far, ive learned to become more open because of this. Some of the people ive made really good friends with at uni are people that I normally probably wouldn’t have associated with in an ordinary setting, just because of how different we are… But the strange thing is, WE ARE SO SIMILAR, it just took more than a first impression to figure it out!

I guess the point is, that our minds can make decisions and create ideas that we have no control over, but they aren’t always right! By pushing passed these we can experience brilliant things in life that we might have missed had we let our unconscious run our lives. Jump at opportunities and not to conclusions!

Feel free to leave a comment 🙂

-A Dash Of Blonde –

No worries… hopefully

Spy Everyone goes through hard times- some worse than others, but however you look at it, no one is happy all of the time. I think it is important that on those days when your spirits are low, that you aim to do  things that will maybe help you come to terms with whatever’s bothering you and getting you down, as well as making yourself feel a bit better.

Recently I’ve been going through a break up with my now ex-boyfriend (might as well be open with you all ey?) and I’m finding it fairly hard to keep myself from crying at any given moment that my mind isn’t occupied. I’ve therefore been doing things that I feel will perhaps boost my spirits whilst also keeping my mind off the situation.

Although these may not be the best solution for everyone as individuals deal with things differently, this is what I have found to be the best through my own experience:

1) Surround yourself with people who care about you.

I believe that the best way for me to feel happier when I’m feeling down is by either arranging something with my friends or  by being around family. Although you may not feel the most sociable at this moment in time and it may take a lot of strength to go out and make conversation, being around those who care about you will hopefully help to make you realise that you’re not alone and they might be able to put a smile back on your face.

2) TV

 For me this is obvious as TV , no matter what it is , will never fail to cheer me up and help me relax. Focus on the characters and distract yourself from whatever is making you feel down. Pick your favourite show or film, put your feet up, enjoy and relax! Here are a few suggestions as to what to watch:

  • Friends – you can’t help but smile at the witty humour.
  •  Just Go With It  – This film starring Adam Sadler and Jennifer Aniston is full of light-hearted jokes and a storyline that although is predictable, you can’t help but love.
  • Grown Up’s – Another film starring Adam Sandler and again is funny and not too heavy. Just what you want when you’re trying raise your spirit!
  • Spy- Comedy starring Melissa Mccarthy. I highly recommend!
  • Mean Girls- A classic. Can’t go wrong.
  • The Big Bang Theory
  • New Girl
  • Mamma Mia – If you enjoy musicals like me then this is perfect for you to watch and sing along to.

3) Pamper yourself. 

Take a long, warm bath. When I’m feeling stressed or down, I get bunch of magazines, grab a lush bath bomb (I recommend ‘Butterball’ for relaxation as it isn’t too overpowering but is a great feature to your bath) and just take that time to de-stress. Alternatively, you could apply a face mask, paint your nails or even do your hair/make- up. Anything that will make you feel better and more relaxed.

Once the cocoa butter pieces have melted, your skin will be coated by a light buttery film that smells good enough to eat. Ylang ylang is used in aromatherapy to treat stress and depression, as well as relaxing the nervous system, and relieves anger, panic and fear. – Lush

4) Listen to music

Music has the ability to change a mood and take you on journey away from all the worries and cares.

5) Write

For me, I find writing down my troubles to be quite therapeutic and gives me a chance to express the things I’m feeling that I feel difficult to put into words. Like Anna Nalick sang in her song ‘Breathe (2AM)’: “If I get it all down on paper, it’s no longer inside me, threatening the life it belongs to”.

If you have any suggestion of your own, feel free to comment, I would love to hear them!

– A Dash Of Blonde –

p.s Sorry if these aren’t the best suggestions for you, I’m just writing from my own experiences and what makes me feel better!

I’m no Zoella

Hello!

Okay, so I’m no Zoella – I’m new to all this blogging stuff so forgive me If I’m not all too good at it.

Recently I have been feeling as though I have a lot to say and have a lot of thoughts running through my head but no way to express it. This is where the idea to start a blog came in. I thought that it would be an excellent way to express these thoughts, feelings and ideas and unload on certain things.

Currently in my life, I’m heading into that dreaded period of doom (I.e. exam period) and the pressure is very high. I find myself forgetting about all the other things in life that are equally important as grades such as family and friends, as well as myself. Which is why I am doing this blog for extremely selfish reasons; I want to do something for me that will help me feel better in daily life and I hope to have fun while doing it!

 

We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths – Walt Disney