Okay, so I just recently started university in September and although I am technically there to work, the life of a student is FAB! (minus the fact that I never have money for anything and I’m in like a millions pounds worth of debt).
Despite being more excited rather than nervous, before I moved away to university I still had niggling thoughts in the back of my mind that said things like: ‘What if my flatmates are horrible?’; ‘what if I don’t make any friends and have to live three years alone without any social interaction at all?!’; ‘what if I hate the course I am taking?’; ‘what If I miss home too much?’… what if? what if? what if?!
I kept creating all these negative thoughts in my head that I have now realised were totally irrational, and after talking to people, it seems that these are fairly common thoughts in people moving away to university. And yes, of course these situations may arise, for example, my friend really does not get on with her flat mates… but she found us instead and is now planning on moving into a house with us next year! What I’m trying to say is that yes, things may not go perfectly, but in my opinion nothing is as bad as you think it could be.
I moved into a flat with five other complete and utter strangers and I’m pleased to say that we get on like a house on fire and have become very close as a group. I, like I expect most people do, formed a first impression of each of them when I first came face to face with them and after knowing them just a short while, I realised my impressions were mostly wrong! My judements instantly labelled them and put them under some category such as: ‘popular’, ‘gamer’, ‘loner’ etc. (I promise I’m not a horrible person, this is just the conclusions my brain jumped to, I swear!! However, people are so much more than just what they appear to be the first time you meet someone and I think through my experience at uni so far, ive learned to become more open because of this. Some of the people ive made really good friends with at uni are people that I normally probably wouldn’t have associated with in an ordinary setting, just because of how different we are… But the strange thing is, WE ARE SO SIMILAR, it just took more than a first impression to figure it out!
I guess the point is, that our minds can make decisions and create ideas that we have no control over, but they aren’t always right! By pushing passed these we can experience brilliant things in life that we might have missed had we let our unconscious run our lives. Jump at opportunities and not to conclusions!
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